I recently went to a networking event with other business owners from all different industries and markets. Besides the fact that it is incredibly interesting to me to hear how other entrepreneurs are working to grow their business, it continues to fascinate me how what I do can be explained by using other businesses as metaphors. I’ve written before about how confusing the world of behavioral health is to those not directly “linked in” (trust, it’s even confusing to some of us who are).
So….I’d just come and talk to you?
How will this solve my issue?
How long will this take?
….I don’t get it
Describing the counseling process AND the benefits and challenges of, can be a somewhat difficult task for counselors and for potential clients who are looking for help and comfort during a difficult time.
Anyway, back to my original thought during this week’s event. I’m listening to the presenters passionately speak about their business and how their specific service is needed by many to solve a problem in their lives. Around the room we go, hearing from CPA’s, builders, therapists…and we get to a painter. He begins with an introduction of his business and why choosing the right painter is key; you live in your home and will see these walls for a long time…make sure the job is done beautifully and correctly. He ended his introduction with a story of a home he was working on, fixing the hastily done job of the previous painter. This painter explains that he has spent hours treating, pealing and trying to salvage this home – with little success so far. Choose carefully, he concludes, and choose someone with excellent customer service.
I think it’s human nature to want quick results; to acknowledge a problem and begin looking for the quick fix in the same moment.
We rush, we push….we force.
Most changes worth making, changes that set in motion life long results…take time. It’s unpopular, I know. You hate it, I know. You don’t have time for it, I know.
Therapy is a process that’s hard, and ugly, and beautiful and motivating. A good counselor provides a safe place for this work to happen. So yes, in the beginning - you just come to talk. The goal is as time goes on, it becomes more than that. Let me tie this together – choose the right painter, one that will give you what you uniquely need as you make your life changes. Ask questions, inquire and take a pause when you’re not getting, from your counselor, what you need. Isn’t it better to take the time in the beginning, vs. a complete re-do?