It's truly amazing to me that when the time change hits in the Spring, the struggle for me to get back on track sleep wise, motivation wise - lasts for typically about a week. Which leads me to the post for today - self caring 'aint easy.
I post a lot about taking care of your own needs (IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT). Self care is more than buying a new pair of shoes, or taking a bubble bath - self care care involves setting healthy boundaries with others and prioritizing myself and my own needs. The more things that get packed into my schedule, the more difficult this becomes. I like being transparent here in my writing, it's not something that is always super approp to do during counseling sessions. It's why i LOVE DBT skills, so this concept of - everyone needs to put work and effort into themselves - everyone, therapists included.
One area of self-care that I struggle with is saying no. For a long time I thought all I need to do to be mentally healthy was to get 8 hours of sleep, cut down on the screen time, exercise and eat green things. While these things feel awesome when I prioritize them, they are just part of self-care that helps me remain steady and calm. Setting boundaries are a HUGE piece of this self-care puzzle. You can go to yoga class every morning and take a bubble bath every night, but if you can't stand up for your self, for your needs - you're not setting yourself up as a priority in your life?
I've been working on saying no more, which is an odd step for a strength based counselor. (Strength based would sound more like, I'm working on putting my own needs first more often). This is a huge challenge! I'm a yes (wo)man. Who can do it? I can. I used to see that as a strength - but it can also be a weakness. Not paying attention to your limits, skimming over the things that you want isn't a strength, ignoring your own well being is not a strength. Balance it out.
We've reached the time of year where new years resolutions begin to fall away, how can you empower yourself in the coming week? How can you prioritize yourself?