Turning weaknesses into strengths

The words we choose to describe a person or a behavior are important, especially when it comes to kids. We can all agree that helping children build a healthy self-image involves all of the adults in that child’s life working toward that singular goal. As adults, being thoughtful about our language is one way we can encourage positive growth. During certain situations it may be hard to find empowering words to describe our children or their abilities. These situations are when empowering words are the most needed. Speak kindness, choose carefully and thoughtfully.  Take your time responding.

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 You are so:

Disorganized vs. Creative

Inflexible vs. Organized

Stubborn vs. Dedicated

Inconsistent vs. Flexible

Obnoxious vs. Enthusiastic

Hyper vs. Energetic

Shy vs. Reflective

Irresponsible vs. Adventurous

Boring vs. Responsible

Unrealistic vs. Positive

Negative vs. Realistic

Careless vs. Thoughtful

Inattentive vs. Careful

Arrogant vs. Self-Confident

Indecisive vs. Patient

Impatient vs. Passionate

Take a Deep Breath and Begin

I love practicing skills that begin with deep breathing with my clients. This post was actually prompted by an exercise done with my supervises recently - after processing through one of my counselors feelings of frustration with a client's lack of progress. (obvious this was discussed further focusing on a more person centered model of individualized successes - but that's not what this post is about)  It can happen so quickly, getting swept up in another person's chaos and not realizing now you're just along for the ride.  My encouragement - just breathe. 

 

Mindful breathing practice

 

Breathe and Observe. When we observe, we're sensing an experience as just an experience. You’re just noticing – noticing a thought, noticing a feeling, noticing sounds and other sensations. Noticing urges; urges to act, move, speak etc. Observe and do what? Nothing. You’re just noticing. Like you’re observing sail boats moving by you, skimming on top of the water. You’re not pushing feelings or thoughts away, or trying to change them  - You’re not attaching yourself to what your observing. You’re just observing. you’re just sitting and being with your observation. No judgement (this sucks, this is uncomfortable, this is unfair, this is cold, this is sticky - these are judgments)

 

Let’s try an exercise in observing.

 

Place your feet on the floor – observe your feet on the floor.

Observe your bottom in the chair (or observe how you are sitting or laying)

Observe the first 3 thoughts that go through your mind

Observe the sounds in the room

Observe your breath, in and out